Tuesday, January 31, 2012

12 Things Successful People Do Differently (Pt.2)

7. They keep things simple.
Leonardo da Vinci once said, “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. Here in the 21st century, where information moves at the speed of light and opportunities for innovation seem endless, we have an abundant array of choices when it comes to designing our lives and careers. But sadly, an abundance of choice often leads to complication, confusion and inaction.
Several business and marketing studies have shown that the more product choices a consumer is faced with, the less products they typically buy. After all, narrowing down the best product from a pool of three choices is certainly a lot easier than narrowing down the best product from a pool of three hundred choices. If the purchasing decision is tough to make, most people will just give up. Likewise, if you complicate your life by inundating yourself with too many choices, your subconscious mind will give up.
The solution is to simplify. If you’re selling a product line, keep it simple. And if you’re trying to make a decision about something in your life, don’t waste all your time evaluating every last detail of every possible option. Choose something that you think will work and give it a shot. If it doesn’t work out, learn what you can from the experience, choose something else and keep pressing forward.
8. They focus on making small, continuous improvements.
Henry Ford once said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small pieces.” The same concept configured as a question: How do you eat an elephant? Answer: One bite at a time. This philosophy holds true for achieving your biggest goals. Making small, positive changes – eating a little healthier, exercising a little, creating some small productive habits, for example – is an amazing way to get excited about life and slowly reach the level of success you aspire to.
And if you start small, you don’t need a lot of motivation to get started either. The simple act of getting started and doing something will give you the momentum you need, and soon you’ll find yourself in a positive spiral of changes – one building on the other. When I started doing this in my life, I was so excited I had to start this blog to share it with the world.
Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they arise. For instance, if you’re trying to lose weight, come up with a list of healthy snacks you can eat when you get the craving for snacks. It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier. And that’s the whole point. As your strength grows, you can take on bigger challenges.
9. They measure and track their progress.
Successful people are not only working in their job/business, they are also working on it. They step back and assess their progress regularly. They track themselves against their goals and clearly know what needs to be done to excel and accelerate.
You can’t control what you don’t properly measure. If you track the wrong things you’ll be completely blind to potential opportunities as they appear over the horizon. Imagine if, while running a small business, you made it a point to keep track of how many pencils and paperclips you used. Would that make any sense? No! Because pencils and paperclips are not a measure of what’s important for a business. Pencils and paperclips have no bearing on income, customer satisfaction, market growth, etc.
The proper approach is to figure out what your number one goal is and then track the things that directly relate to achieving that goal. I recommend that you take some time right now to identify your number one goal, identify the most important things for you to keep track of, and then begin tracking them immediately. On a weekly basis, plug the numbers into a spreadsheet and use the data to create weekly or monthly trend graphs so you can visualize your progress. Then fine-tune your actions to get those trends to grow in your favor.
10. They maintain a positive outlook as they learn from their mistakes.
Successful people concentrate on the positives – they look for the silver lining in every situation. They know that it is their positivity that will take them to greatness. If you want to be successful, you need to have a positive outlook toward life. Life will test you again and again. If you give in to internal negativity, you will never be able to achieve the marks you have targeted.
Remember, every mistake you make is progress. Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal. The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.
So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself! Don’t let your own negativity sabotage you. Learn what you can and press forward.
11. They spend time with the right people.
Successful people associate with people who are likeminded, focused, and supportive. They socialize with people who create energy when they enter the room versus those who create energy when they leave. They reach out to connected, influential individuals who are right for their dreams and goals.
You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with. If you hang with the wrong people, they will negatively affect you. But if you hang with the right people, you will become far more capable and successful than you ever could have been alone. Find your tribe and work together to make a difference in all of your lives. Tribes by Seth Godin is a great read on this topic.
12. They maintain balance in their life.
If you ask most people to summarize what they want out of life they’ll shout out a list of things like: ‘fall in love,’ ‘make money,’ ‘spend time with family,’ ‘find happiness,’ ‘achieve goals,’ etc. But sadly, a lot of people don’t balance their life properly to achieve these things. Typically they’ll achieve one or two of them while completely neglecting the rest. Let me give you two examples:
§  I know an extremely savvy businesswoman who made almost a million dollars online last year. Based on the success of her business, every entrepreneur I know looks up to her. But guess what? A few days ago, out of the blue, she told me that she’s depressed. Why? “I’m burnt out and lonely. I just haven’t taken enough time for myself lately, and I feel like something is missing in my life,” she said. “Wow!” I thought. “One of the most successful people I know doesn’t feel successful because she isn’t happy with how she has balanced her life.”
§  I also know a surfer who surfs all day, every day on the beach in front of our condo complex in San Diego. He’s one of the most lighthearted, optimistic guys I’ve ever met – usually smiling from ear to ear. But he sleeps in a rusty van he co-owns with another surfer, and they both frequently panhandle tourists for money. He has admitted to me that the stress of making enough money to eat often keeps him up at night. So while I can’t deny that this man seems happy most of the time, I wouldn’t classify his life as a success story.
These are just two simple examples of imbalanced lifestyles that are holding people back from their full potential. When you let your work life (or social life, family life, etc.) consume you, and all your energy is focused in that area, it’s extremely easy to lose your balance. While drive and focus are important, if you’re going to get things done right, and be truly successful, you need to balance the various dimensions of your life. Completely neglecting one dimension for another only leads to long-term frustration and stress. For some practical guidance on balancing your life, I recommend Zen and the Art of Happiness.

David Guetta - Turn Me On ft. Nicki Minaj...

Just Do It!

1.31.12 Thought Of The Day

Right Now!!!

-somebody is very proud of you.
-somebody is thinking of you.
-somebody is caring about you.
-somebody misses you
-somebody wants to talk to you.
-somebody wants to be with you.
-somebody hopes you aren't in trouble.
-somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.
-somebody wants to hold your hand.
-somebody hopes everything turns out all right.
-somebody wants you to be happy.
-somebody wants you to find him/her.
-somebody is celebrating your successes.
-somebody wants to give you a gift.
-somebody thinks that you ARE a gift.
-somebody loves you.
-somebody admires your strength.
-somebody is thinking of you and smiling.
-somebody wants to be your shoulder to cry on.
                                                               -Author Unknown

Monday, January 30, 2012

12 Things Successful People Do Differently (Pt.1)

(I came across this article last week as I sat down to write my monthly blog post. After reading it, I thought to myself this is something that I would like to share with our readers! I do not know the original author but regardless the information is still valuable.)
I’ve always been fascinated by people who are consistently successful at what they do; especially those who experience repeated success in many areas of their life throughout their lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Clint Eastwood and Oprah Winfrey. In business, I think of Steve Jobs and Warren Buffett. We all have our own examples of super successful people like these who we admire. But how do they do it?
Over the years I’ve studied the lives of numerous successful people. I’ve read their books, watched their interviews, researched them online, etc. And I’ve learned that most of them were not born into success; they simply did, and continue to do, things that help them realize their full potential. Here are twelve things they do differently that the rest of us can easily emulate.
1. They create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.
Successful people are objective. They have realistic targets in mind. They know what they are looking for and why they are fighting for it. Successful people create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.
S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely. Let’s briefly review each:
§  Specific – A general goal would be, “Get in shape.” But a related specific goal would be, “Join a health club and workout 3 days a week for the next 52 weeks.” A specific goal has a far greater chance of being accomplished because it has defined parameters and constraints.
§  Measurable – There must be a logical system for measuring the progress of a goal. To determine if your goal is measurable, ask yourself questions like: How much time? How many total? How will I know when the goal is accomplished? etc. When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued efforts required to reach your goal.
§  Attainable – To be attainable, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. In other words, the goal must be realistic. The big question here is: How can the goal be accomplished?
§  Relevant – Relevance stresses the importance of choosing goals that matter. For example, an internet entrepreneur’s goal to “Make 75 tuna sandwiches by 2:00PM.” may be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, and Timely, but lacks Relevance to an entrepreneurs overarching objective of building a profitable online business.
§  Timely – A goal must be grounded within a time frame, giving the goal a target date. A commitment to a deadline helps you focus your efforts on the completion of the goal on or before the due date. This part of the S.M.A.R.T. goal criteria is intended to prevent goals from being overtaken by daily distractions.
When you identify S.M.A.R.T. goals that are truly important to you, you become motivated to figure out ways to attain them. You develop the necessary attitude, abilities, and skills. You can achieve almost any goal you set if you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that once seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them.
2. They take decisive and immediate action.
Sadly, very few people ever live to become the success story they dream about. And there’s one simple reason why:
They never take action!
The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing. Growing happens when what you know changes how you live. So many people live in a complete daze. Actually, they don’t ‘live.’ They simply ‘get by’ because they never take the necessary action to make things happen – to seek their dreams.
It doesn’t matter if you have a genius IQ and a PhD in Quantum Physics, you can’t change anything or make any sort of real-world progress without taking action. There’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it. Knowledge and intelligence are both useless without action. It’s as simple as that.
Success hinges on the simple act of making a decision to live – to absorb yourself in the process of going after your dreams and goals. So make that decision. And take action. For some practical guidance on taking action I highly recommend Getting Things Done .
3. They focus on being productive, not being busy.
In his book, The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferris says, “Slow down and remember this: Most things make no difference. Being busy is often a form of mental laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.” This is Ferris’ way of saying “work smarter, not harder,” which happens to be one of the most prevalent modern day personal development clichés. But like most clichés, there’s a great deal of truth to it, and few people actually adhere to it.
Just take a quick look around. The busy outnumber the productive by a wide margin.
Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time. They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc. They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep. Yet, business emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their daily planner is jammed to the brim with obligations.
Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance. But it’s all an illusion. They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.
The solution: Slow down. Breathe. Review your commitments and goals. Put first things first. Do one thing at a time. Start now. Take a short break in two hours. Repeat.
And always remember, results are more important than the time it takes to achieve them.
4. They make logical, informed decisions.
Sometimes we do things that are permanently foolish simply because we are temporarily upset or excited.
Although emotional ‘gut instincts’ are effective in certain fleeting situations, when it comes to generating long-term, sustained growth in any area of life, emotional decisions often lead a person astray. Decisions driven by heavy emotion typically contain minimal amounts of conscious thought, and are primarily based on momentary feelings instead of mindful awareness.
The best advice here is simple: Don’t let your emotions trump your intelligence. Slow down and think things through before you make any life-changing decisions.
5. They avoid the trap of trying to make things perfect.
Many of us are perfectionists in our own right. I know I am at times. We set high bars for ourselves and put our best foot forward. We dedicate copious amounts of time and attention to our work to maintain our high personal standards. Our passion for excellence drives us to run the extra mile, never stopping, never relenting. And this dedication towards perfection undoubtedly helps us achieve results… So long as we don’t get carried away.
But what happens when we do get carried away with perfectionism?
We become disgruntled and discouraged when we fail to meet the (impossibly high) standards we set for ourselves, making us reluctant to take on new challenges or even finish tasks we’ve already started. Our insistence on dotting every ‘I’ and crossing every ‘T’ breeds inefficiency, causing major delays, stress overload and subpar results.
True perfectionists have a hard time starting things and an even harder time finishing them, always. I have a friend who has wanted to start a graphic design business for several years. But she hasn’t yet. Why? When you sift through her extensive list of excuses it comes down to one simple problem: She is a perfectionist. Which means she doesn’t, and never will, think she’s good enough at graphic design to own and operate her own graphic design business.
Remember, the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards people who get things done. And the only way to get things done is to be imperfect 99% of the time. Only by wading through years of practice and imperfection can we begin to achieve momentary glimpses of the perfection. So make a decision. Take action, learn from the outcome, and repeat this method over and over again in all walks of life. Also, check out Too Perfect. It’s an excellent read on conquering perfectionism.
6. They work outside of their comfort zone.
The number one thing I persistently see holding smart people back is their own reluctance to accept an opportunity simply because they don’t think they’re ready. In other words, they feel uncomfortable and believe they require additional knowledge, skill, experience, etc. before they can aptly partake in the opportunity. Sadly, this is the kind of thinking that stifles personal growth and success.
The truth is nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow emotionally and intellectually. They force us to stretch ourselves and our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first. And when we don’t feel comfortable, we don’t feel ready.
Significant moments of opportunity for personal growth and success will come and go throughout your lifetime. If you are looking to make positive changes and new breakthroughs in your life, you will need to embrace these moments of opportunity even though you will never feel 100% ready for them.

Monica - You Should've Known Better...

Some Days I Wake Up Grumpy...

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Friday, January 27, 2012

This Weeks Real Life Woman Rants and Raves...

I am so grateful for my daddy. He was and still is the poster child of what a true man is. My daddy took care of his family, worked hard and wasn't out running the streets and women, like so many of you young men are doing now. I am truly a daddy's girl. Guys don't you want your girls and/or even your son's for that fact of the matter to think this highly of you? Well get out of the streets stop being selfish. Stop acting like little boys. Take care of your children!!! They are yours!!!! If you truly want to be respected the way a man should be, then act the way a man should! - Bobbi Jean

Listen Up! Weekend Playlist Recommendations....

The Best Bar Sign I Have Ever Seen....LOL!

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Thursday, January 26, 2012

Movie Review: Man On A Ledge

How far would you go to prove your innocence?  That is what this movie is centered around and makes you think about that very question. Ex-cop, Nick Cassidy (Sam Worthington) was convicted of stealing a rare diamond and lays it all on the line to clean his tarnished name.  Nick breaks out of jail and steps out on a ledge of a Manhattan hotel in an effort to prove his innocence.  Nick puts his trust in the hands of the police psychologist (Elizabeth Banks) assigned to talk him off the ledge before his time runs out.  Although the ending was predictable, there are several twists and turns to keep you guessing. Overall, this movie is worth going to the theater instead of waiting until it comes out on DVD.
In addition to the main characters played by Sam Worthington and Elizabeth Banks who both give top notch performances. There are more familiar faces in this film that we love.  Ed Harris and The Closer's Kyra Sedwick (aka Kevin Bacon's wife) are the two most recognizable. Also in this film you will see Anthony Mackie (8 Mile), Jamie Bell (Jumper) as well as Entourage's Genesis Rodriguez and Edward Burns.
This film opens up in movie theaters nation wide on tomorrow January 27, 2012. With a run time of approximately 1 hour 42 minutes, it is an acceptable length to enjoy. Once a film gets in to the 2 hour plus range it becomes a little too much, in my opinion.

Man on a Ledge - Official Trailer

Be Happy And Sing It Out Loud!

1.26.12 Thought Of The Day

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Do You Need To Clean Your House?

Last Week I threw out worrying, it was getting old and in the way.
It kept me from being me; I couldn't do things God's way.
I threw out a book on MY PAST
(Didn't have time to read it anyway).
Replaced it with NEW GOALS, started reading it today.
I threw out hate and bad memories,
(Remember how I treasured them so)
Got me a NEW PHILOSOPHY too, threw out the one from long ago.
Brought in some new books too, called I CAN, I WILL, and I MUST.
Threw out I might, I think and I ought.
WOW, you should've seen the dust.
I ran across an OLD FRIEND, I hadn't talked to in a while.
His name is GOD the Father, and I really like His style.
He helped me to do some cleaning and added some things Himself.
Yes... I placed them right on the shelf.
I picked up this special thing and placed it at the front door.
I FOUND IT- it's called PEACE. Nothing gets me down anymore.
Yes, I've got my house looking nice.
Looks good around the place.
For things like Worry and Trouble there just isn't any space.
It's good to do a little house cleaning,
Get rid of the things on the shelf.
It sure makes things brighter; maybe you should TRY IT YOURSELF.
- Anonymous

The Best Passed Out Prank Ever....Classic!

Honk If You Love Jesus!

1.24.12 Thought Of The Day

"Intelligence is attractive, but so is life experience. You can't amass it just by reading a ton of books. But you can live a lot of life in a short time. Travel. Talk to everyone. Collect adventures, and use them to understand the world. That's how you learn to treat people well. And that's sexy." - Nicole Lapin

Monday, January 23, 2012


The heating unit went out on my dryer! The gentleman that fixes things around the house for us told us that he wanted to show us something and he went over to the dryer and pulled out the lint filter. It was clean (I always clean the lint from the filter after every load clothes.) He told us that he wanted to show us something; he took the filter over to the sink, ran hot water over it. The lint filter is made of a mesh material - I'm sure you know what your dryer's lint filter looks like. Well, the hot water just sat on top of the mesh! It didn't go through it at all! He told us that dryer sheets cause a film over that mesh that's what burns out the heating unit. You can't SEE the film, but it's there. It's what is in the dryer sheets to make your clothes soft and static free -- that nice fragrance too, you know how they can feel waxy when you take them out of the box, well t his stuff builds up on your clothes and on your lint screen. This is also what causes dryer units to catch fire & potentially burn your house down with it! He said the best way to keep your dryer working for a very long time (and to keep your electric bill lower) is to take that filter out & wash it with hot soapy water & an old toothbrush (or other brush) at least every six months. He said that makes the life of the dryer at least twice as long! How about that!?! Learn something new everyday! I certainly didn't know dryer sheets would do that. So, I thought I would share!

Note: I went to my dryer & tested my screen by running water on it. The water ran through a little bit but mostly collected all the water in the mesh screen. I washed it with warm soapy water, a nylon brush and I had it done in 30 seconds. Then when I rinsed it, the water ran right through the screen! There wasn't any puddling at all! That repairman knew what he was talking about! - Anonymous

In Living Color's Men On Football...Hilarious!

Do You Have The Same Fantasy As She Does???

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Saturday, January 21, 2012

This Weeks Real Life Woman Rants and Raves...

I really enjoy listening to Drake speak. The other night on a talk show as I was just flipping through the channels, I caught an interview with him. He spoke very well, not dumbed down or "cool" at all. I especially noticed it because not to long ago I was listening to a radio station where all the rappers including the host sounded like they had been victims of No Child Left behind even though they were all over the age of 30 or close to it. It's time for us to get it together, we are failing! Please lose the slave mentality. When we talk ignorant it appears to most that you don't have the ability to speak correctly i.e. "Ebonics". We play ourselves every time we carry ourselves in an ignorant manner. It just seems that we don't care anymore and are just lost souls. Well I'm not a slave and I'm not raising any either. I just really wish my people would get themselves together. Each generation is getting worse and we are part of our own problem. I say we because until we collectively come together and stand up for what's right. I'm still just another dumb (insert the "N" word) like the rest because we are all grouped together. Ignorance is not bliss in Real Life. What did Spike Lee say in the movie "Do The Right Thing??? WAAAAAAAAAAAKKKKKKKKKKEEEEEEE UUUUUPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!! - Bobbi Jean

As long as I've been a nurse, I've never received so many compliments, letters of thanks, gift cards, plants, hugs, and hopes from patients that I will be back tomorrow. It makes me feel good about the job I do for those patients and families. I appreciate their recognition more than they will ever know because when you don't really like where you are, and you don't feel that you fit in, it's nice to know that the people you take care of think your great! - Lisa
Got one W-2 just waiting on one more then WE ARE OUTTA THIS SHIT HOLE....I AM SO READY!!!! - April
Note To Men: It isn't what you do its how you do it! So the next time you with the next female & you got an 'ol lady when she call your phone tell that broad in the background to shut up its your woman calling & if she can respect that then that's what it do!!! - L.W.

New Edition - If It Isn't Love...

Yes, Weekend...

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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

I Pulled Out My Gray Hair, Now What...

Yesterday, I did it! I committed the one sin that I have been told as a woman that I should NEVER EVER, NEVER EVER do! What is that? I pulled out a gray hair. Ok, since I am confessing here, let me be honest. I pulled out three gray hairs, yes I said it THREE FREAKING GRAY HAIRS! So now according to the old wives tales that I have been hearing all of my life, I should expect a total of six more gray hairs to grow in the place of the three I pulled out. You know the saying, if you pull out a gray hair, two more will grow in its place. Oh, what is a girl to do now?

I have prided myself on having natural beauty and thus do not wear much make-up, color contacts or put chemicals in my hair. In my opinion, less has always been more when it comes to my beauty regimen. However, now with the realization that I am getting gray hair, I am now at a crossroads with what to do next. Do I go gray gracefully or start checking out the hair dye? I have never dyed my hair, so then my delima becomes, do I color it to match my natural color or not? Decisions, decisions, decisions... My norm has always been go the safe route, but now that I am a little older and somewhat wiser, I am stepping out of that safe box a little more. Therefore, I am seriously considering going for a bold hair color. Why not? I think that instead of trying to pretend that I do not have gray hair and dying it the same color would be a waste of a opportunity.

Opportunity? What opportunity? I am speaking of the opportunity to step outside my comfort zone. I think it is easy for all of us to get complacent at times. I know this blog post is about hair but technically for me its a little more than that. I am the queen of "the daily routine" and do not like too many things to break up the monotony. This gray hair has done exactly that. This self discovery has caused me to take a longer look at my "why" and "how" approach in general to life. With this self discovery the opportunity to improve has presented itself and I am going to open the door wide open to allow it in! Of course, I will keep my blog readers in the loop on what I decide so please stay tuned.

"Life loses its meaning when we get stuck up in comfort zone." - M.K. Soni

Proof That Arguing With A Female Is Tough At Any Age...

Hang On You're Almost There...It's Midweek

1.18.12 Thought Of The Day

"A woman should know how to look like a girl, how to act like a lady, how to think like a man." - Zadie Smith

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Stay Healthy Tip: Subungal Hematoma

So you slammed your finger in the door or you "stumped" your toe! Ouch! Now your finger or toe is throbbing and the pain is getting worse. There is blood under the nail. This is called a SUBUNGAL HEMATOMA. You doctor will drain the area using a "hot" scapel or large bore "hot" needle (i.e. stick a hole in it). You will feel immediate relief. Have A Healthy Day! (AND DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME!!)

Robin Thicke - Love After War...

Monday's Gone...

1.17.12 Thought Of The Day

Friday, January 13, 2012

This Weeks Real Life Woman Rants and Raves...

As promised here are the rants & raves of our readers for this week! Enjoy....

RANT: Dear Student, I understand that you have never failed a test and you want to see what you did wrong. But do you understand that when you leave 15 out of 60 questions blank on your mid-term exam, you don't give yourself much room for error? - Stephanie

RANT: Can someone please tell me why all these empty little girls are posting pictures of their naked bodies all over Facebook, Twitter and the internet period?. Y'all need to stop re-posting and liking and try to help them. That isn't cool for nobody's daughter, sister, wife or friend. NOBODY!!! It's really sad and my heart goes out because I don't know how we got to this point ladies. So not cool. - Sherri

RANT: People that gossip about you and think it will never get to you…Pssssssst! Your girl friends are NOT YOU FRIENDS or mine either but that's where I get all my information smh!! Females that haven't realized you cant trust ANY other female even your BFF are slow sloooooooow I say..... grow up check your girls or keep sitting there with your dumb a** wondering how I know everything I do …Did you forget this is a small town? I still hear you talking too. One day you watch and see YOU WILL GET YOURS cause I don't think about you or talk about you so if you are not worried about me then why your lips love saying my name? Shouts out to the gossip folks #fail - Nikki

No RAVES this week...please don't forget to submit your Rants & Raves to our email at rtrw2011@gmail.com 

If You Loved Me....

You ever have that friend, lover, etc...whoever say to you "if you loved me you would..." Ok I'll admit that in some cases we would need to appease this desire filled statement and do what they wish. In other cases we as adults or at least as people with our own thoughts, desires, and goals have to make a decision based on what we need, want, or see best for ourselves. The great thing about being an adult is no one else gets a true say in that decision unless we allow them to. In short you may not like everything I do or say but it has no...or at least shouldn't have any bearing on how much you think I care about you. In other words love does not = taking your side in every issue that arises or agreeing with you all the time. (See my old blog about unreasonable expectations of this is what you believe.)

In my opinion, statements like this - which I myself have been guilty of at times - place an unfair burden on the relationship. I should point out I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. We could be talking about your best friend telling you they don't want you to do this or that. A mom could be asking her adult child not to associate with a certain group of people that she doesn't like. In my case - in one example - I felt as though this person could not possibly care about me given a specific conversation we had. Obviously, it was not a pleasant conversation, and the fallout lasted months. In order to forgive my friend I had to come to the realization that her actions did not prove a lack of caring for me. It only proved that her need, wish, desire went against what I wanted. That is not her fault or even her problem. Her only obligation was to be honest with me regarding any part that affects me.
Fights happen and people get emotional and upset. But if you call them your friends you should know and trust them well enough to trust their intentions. 

Ellie Goulding - Only Girl (In The World)


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Thursday, January 12, 2012

Real Life Woman Rants & Raves...

Starting Friday, January 13, 2012 and each Friday thereafter we will begin our weekly blog post called "Real Life Woman Rants & Raves".  In an effort to allow our readers take more of a role in the blogs content we want to know what is going on in your world that you are and are not happy about. We are excited about hearing from you and can't wait til tomorrow to post! If you want to participate in "Real Life Woman Rants & Raves" then all you have to do is email us at rtrw2011@gmail.com or send us a direct message on twitter @RealLifeWoman.

Shit Women Say to Personal Trainers...Funny!!!

Would You Give Her A Discount?

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