Wednesday, August 31, 2011


Recently a friend of mine found herself caught up in a sticky situation and I felt the need to write about it in order to get some things off my chest. This is because when a friend of mine is hurt or done wrong so to speak, I take it personally. Of course I tried to get her to write about this herself but she respectfully declined due to not wanting to step on any toes or anything.  I am not as nice and if I step on someone's toes then as Rhett Butler so eloquently put it in the movie Gone With The Wind, "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn." 

To make a long story short, I will give the Cliffs Notes version of this story so I can get to my point as quickly as possible without making this post a novel.  My friend had a love interest that she met back months ago. The individual she was interested in was clear they were not ready for a "serious" relationship right now but continued to flirt and give mixed signals to my friend. Yes, this includes going out, talking on a regular basis and yes even being intimate. As previously stated, months went by and they began to get closer and they started going out around each other's friends.  One friend in particular was being flirted with by the love interest when they were all out together, this caused my friend to say something to her friend that made it clear that she would not ever do that because she did not want to hurt her.  She made it clear that she knew my friend was interested in this other person and that she wanted no parts of her love interest.  So please, can someone tell me how in the hell do these two end up together right under my friends nose? The worse part of it all, they think that my friend should still be friends with them. Really?
When did friendship and loyalty go out the window for some people? I am so pissed off about this that I want to call the "so called" now ex-friend and let her know how full of shit she really is and that I really hope that she gets everything that she deserves. I am sure that everyone has heard the old saying, "the same way you got him will be the same way you lose him." As for the love interest, why in the world will you not leave my friend alone now? Haven't you done enough? Do you have an ounce of self respect in your body? Why can't you see that you have done enough damage and move on with your life? I know you can't be so stupid to think that my friend will continue to talk to you and hang out with you and her "so called" ex-friend, right?  You are so lucky that the "so called" friend wasn't a real friend. If she were then you would be somewhere trying to figure out what went wrong with your master plan. I am just happy that my friend is able to rid herself of two people that are not worthy of her being in their lives. It is their loss and her gain.

Video of The Day - The O'Jays: Back Stabbers

Picture of The Day - Back Stabbers...

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"The only way to have a friend is to be one." - Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

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Video of The Day - The Boy Is Mine!

Picture of The Day - A Little Tuesday Humor For You...

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"The more you try to be interested in other people, the more you find out about yourself." - Thea Astley

Monday, August 29, 2011

What's Up Doc? Stay Healthy Tip!

Separation Anxiety is what many students and parents are feeling right now as the school year begins. To simply put it, it is the fear of being apart from what is comfortable, safe, and familiar. Know that in order for someone to advance they have to step away from that which is comfortable, safe, and familiar. Have A Healthy "Positively Separated" Day!

Video of The Day - Crazy In Love by Beyonce ft.Jay-Z

Picture of The Day - Congrats To Jay-Z & B!

Congratulations To Jay-Z and Beyonce on Expecting Their First Baby!

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"Anything is possible if you've got enough nerve." - J.K. Rowling

Friday, August 26, 2011

Dust Yo Self Off: Remembering Aaliyah 10 Years Later

Today I have been tasked with blogging about the late Aaliyah. This may be the easiest blog post that I have written to date because I am going to allow her music to speak for itself. However, before then I am going to first off say, yes I am aware that yesterday, August 25th was the actual anniversary of her death. Today is Friday, August 26th and the reason I am blogging today is because I remember being in a night club at the time the DJ came across the mic and confirmed that Aaliyah was in fact dead from a plane crash. So with today being Friday, I decided to get the weekend started off right by posting my favorite Aaliyah videos. Each of these songs are special to me because it reminds me of what a talent this young lady was and in my opinion ahead of her time. She was sexy in her own way but a class act. There is no doubt in my mind that if Aaliyah was alive today, she would be the top R&B female in the game today, hands down! Now sit back and relax as I take you down memory lane with some of Aaliyah's best work! Happy Friday and please make sure you put some Aaliyah in your MP3, IPod, or whatever you get your music on with this weekend. I know for a fact I will...starting right now!

Video of The Day - Miss You (Aaliyah Tribute)

Picture of The Day - Aaliyah, 1979-2001

Rest In Peace Aaliyah - We Miss You...
January 16, 1979 - August 25, 2001

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"I want people to remember me as a full on entertainer and a good person." - Aaliyah

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Thursday Humor: Woman's Witticism

One day my housework-challenged husband decided to wash his Sweatshirt.   Seconds after he stepped into the laundry room, he shouted to me, 'What setting do I use on the washing machine?' 'It depends,' I replied.  'What does it say on your shirt?' He yelled back, 'OHIO STATE!' And they say blondes are dumb....

'It's just too hot to wear clothes today,' Jack says as he stepped out of the shower.. 'Honey, what do you think the neighbors would think if I mowed the lawn like this?' 'Probably that I married you for your money,' she replied.

While creating husbands, God promised women that good and ideal husbands would be found in all corners of the world.....then He made the earth round.


Video of The Day - Hide Your Children Hide Your Wife...LOL!

Picture of The Day - FAIL...

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?" - Vincent Van Gogh

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

What's Up Doc? Stay Healthy Tip: Food Allergies

"NEW" food allergies are thought to be seen mostly in children. However, adults also need to be aware. It is possible to develop new food allergies with age. The most common are to seafood or nuts. The reaction can be as mild, ranging from itching to a life-threatening reaction. Go to the emergency room or see your doctor if this happens. Have A Healthy Day!

Video of The Day - Pat Head Summit Statement

Picture of The Day - Pat Head Summit

The Greatest Ever! Our Thoughts & Prayers Are With You Coach!

Real Talk Quote of The Day

'Waste not fresh tears over old griefs." - Euripides

Monday, August 22, 2011

Review: Martin Lawrence, Comedy Tour 2011

On Saturday, August 13th I was in attendance at my first Martin Lawrence stand up comedy show in Houston, Texas. All I can say it was well worth the money. This man is one of the funniest comedians in the business. As I sat there watching, listening, and laughing my ass off, it was apparent that Martin Lawrence has not lost a step at all when it comes to his stand up show. My assumption was that he may not have been as sharp because he has been off the stand up scene for a minute doing movies and other projects, but I was pleasantly surprised to see that I was wrong. It was hilarious. He used the full stage and engaged the audience throughout the entire time he was on stage. Seeing Martin on stage was like watching an old friend that you haven’t seen in a while talk about things you had done or thought about at some point in your life. You have to understand my point of view when it comes to Martin Lawrence; he quickly became a fixture in my life when he came out with The Martin Lawrence show in the early 1990s. That show became a source of laughter for me and so many of my friends up until this very day. The number of characters this man is able to play is amazing to me. This is not something many skilled actors can do. However, Martin makes playing multiple characters look so effortless. He has played women, children, and even a white man in addition to several other male characters. All I can say is that if you have not enjoyed Martin Lawrence’s talent in some shape form or fashion then you are depriving yourself of a great laugh. This man is one of the best at what he does and there is no doubt about that. I guess it goes without saying that I highly recommend you going to see him live if you are ever given an opportunity to do so in the future.

Video of The Day - 3 Funny Martin Lawrence Clips!!!

Picture of The Day - The Faces of Martin Lawrence

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"A day without laughter is a day wasted." - Charlie Chaplin

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"Instead of giving myself reasons why I can't, I give myself reasons why I can." - Unknown
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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Back To School Health Tip: Educators Listen Up!

EDUCATORS ARE YOU READY!?!...To identify some common causes of learning disabilities and social inappropriateness? Hearing and visual deficits are two examples of these common problems. If you are suspicious? Try changing the seating arrangements and pay attention to how students track (follow with their eyes) you in the class room. It is also good to speak from different areas in the class room. Have A Healthy "School" Day!

Video of The Day - Love of My Life

Picture of The Day - Do Something Crazy Wednesday!

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"Men of genius do not excel in any profession because they labor in it, but they labor in it because they excel." - William Hazlitt

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

How Do You Treat People?

1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.

During  my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read The last one:"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the Cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. "Absolutely, " said the professor.. "In your careers, you will meet many people.  All are significant... They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello.." I've never forgotten that lesson.. I also learned her name was Dorothy.      

2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup In The Rain

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama   highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960's. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits.  Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's' bedside just before he passed away... God Bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
Mrs.Nat King Cole.

3 - Third Important Lesson - Always Remember Those Who Serve      

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop      and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "Fifty cents," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the     ice cream, paid the cashier and left.  When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table.  There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..
You see,  he couldn't  have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 - Fourth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease.  Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had      
developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save
her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing      
the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away". Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her. And he was willing to do it anyway.    

Video of The Day - Watch Out Who You Honk At...

Picture of The Day - Fail!

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." - Dale Carnegie

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"To err is human, but when the eraser wears out ahead of the pencil, you're overdoing it." - Josh Jenkins
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Friday, August 12, 2011

Real Talk Quote of The Day

"Live your life by design and not by default." - Unknown
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Thursday, August 11, 2011

Should Mom's Have A Vacation?

The title of this post is a question but honestly, I know the answer is YES! However, I am hearing more and more women that feel guilty about leaving their children to "enjoy" themselves for a weekend or a week.  What is wrong with this picture? I rarely hear men say they feel bad about going away with their wives, friends or anyone for that matter when it is time to leave the kids behind for a few days. It is usually their wives that are worried and calling to check on the kids a thousand times, right? As women we need to learn to let go and enjoy ourselves.

If it is imperative that we get our 15 to 30 minutes a day to have some "me" time, so how come it isn't just as important to have a "vacate"?  It is important that we take a few days to just be ourselves. We need to have time to not be "mommy" for just a moment without feeling any guilt. There are 365 days in a year. As long as we leave our children in capable hands then we should be free to let go, even if it is just for one night. I am serious, start out slow with a night out then move on to a long weekend. After your kids get older, then extend it out a little until you get to the point of a week away or more! Trust me, when you get back home you will be on top of the world and REFRESHED!
My friends and I have decided to take at least one adult only vacation a year. In addition to that, we will are planning to take joint vacations with the children too. This way the kids are included. I will let you in on a little secret, some of the children look forward to the mom's going away on vacation. I know that couldn't possibly be your children (smile). I know I wasn't terribly upset when my mom went on vacation. I was able to go to my Grandparent's house where I was spoiled rotten. Yeah, that is just the pits. Getting almost everything I wanted and enjoying every moment of my mom being away. Give yourself and your children a break, even if it is just for a day.