Facts versus Feelings

Often times we allow ourselves to become so overwhelmed with feeling and emotions that we tend to look over the facts that are before us. More often than not we make decisions that have a major effect on our lives based on how we feel and usually end up suffer from great regrets. You hear the statement a lot I know as it pertains to relationships “follow your heart”. Well the fact is the heart loves to love and is often blinded by emotions and personal desires that may not be what’s best for us as a whole. In our careers we have made mistakes by walking off a job or communicating recklessly out of emotion that causes us to face negative consequences that can create detrimental impacts on our lives.

Sticking to the facts is one important step that will assist is in being able to maintain self control. I know that women especially have issues with making emotional based decisions instead of following thru with what’s most logical. I am not saying all women, but based on my life observations this tends to be the case more often than not. I have been a victim myself of acting out on emotions. It is essential that we are able to pay attention to what is right before our face instead of coming up with creative ideas to justify or explain what WE have identified as variables that don’t truly exist yet preventing us from utilizing wise judgment when it comes to our decision making process.

In relationship’s women often times create excuses for men that are not demonstrating their love appropriately or not responding to a relationship in the manner that they should. Well the fact is if the man is not demonstrating love, then he doesn’t love you simple as that. It doesn’t matter what he says, it’s what he does and how he treats you. I know women sometimes will say things like “well he wasn’t showed love as a child”, when the fact is, if a man loves you regardless of what he has been through, there will be some sign and he will have not problems expressing his love in some form or fashion because he won’t be able to help himself. If your man is telling you he’s not ready for a relationship but you continue on playing the role as his woman, this is yet, another example of not paying attention to the facts and acting out on emotions and or desires of the heart believing that his heart and mind will change based on your actions. NOT!!!!

You’re at a job and you don’t like your boss. Your boss in your opinion is rude and disrespectful; you go to work and you are having a bad day, you were already emotionally frustrated before you stepped foot into work. Your boss says something you don’t like; you then respond in an inappropriate manner to your BOSS and you are written up, this was your last write up you were allowed before the termination process began, now what? Because of your feelings and emotions you have now lost your job and caused a severely negative impact on YOUR life. This is just pure justification to back up how essential it is to be able to demonstrate self control not only in this particular situation but in all areas of life. The facts here were that we all know that speaking inappropriately or declining to do what is asked of you by your boss is considered insubordination. That’s a fact. In this particular scenario another fact was, this was the last write up that could be received before the termination process began. The last fact that sticks out is the only person really having to feel the brunt of the pain of being terminated was the employee not the BOSS.

Stick to the facts and always make an aggressive attempt not to react on feelings and emotions. This will not only protect you in the long run form making a lot of bad judgment calls, but from having to deal with the other set of feelings and emotions that we are forced to face after making the wrong decisions in the first place…. BE BLESSED!!!!!!